When a promising romance has ended, it is tempting to quickly “put it all behind you” and distract yourself with somebody new.This strategy may make you feel better, but it ignores the golden opportunity that lies within every so-called “failure”—the chance to learn from it. Hang on to your romantic sanity, and patiently analyze what went wrong and why. Just because emotional bruises aren’t visible doesn’t mean they aren’t real or that they will heal overnight.
Friends aren’t always as reliable as romantic partners, dating prospects can dry up, and the depression of heartbreak often impedes personal growth.
People told me not to get a new girlfriend until that growth was complete, but it’s never complete, is it?
But when you’ve been hurt by someone, taking a step back—in order to clear your mind and heal your heart—is actually the quickest way to get on your feet again.
Here are three reasons why: Your relationship ended for a reason—it takes time to discover and understand why.
So I found myself imagining that a new relationship, this time with the right person, would help me climb out of the ditch the divorce left me in.
People offered me all sorts of advice to talk me out of rebounding, but nobody was able to change my determined mind.
But for people who take breakups the hardest — those who are “anxiously attached” — a rebound relationship might be just what they need, according to a paper by Geoff Mac Donald, associate professor of psychology, and graduate student Stephanie S. Seeking attachment is normal, whether it’s a baby with her mother, an adolescent with his buddies, or two romantic partners.
But anxiously attached people are insecure about their attachments.
The answer to this question is a bit more complicated.
People usually break up for a reason, and so the chances of getting back together with an ex depend on whether the issues that led to the breakup have been resolved.
Not so fast.” That sort of dogged determination may work well for a lot of things in life—but romance isn’t one of them.