He and Josie gradually drifted apart as they both came to realize that the relationship could not work.Her lack of feeling comfortable with the kids and needing to be the focus of his attention when the kids were around caused some real issues for Carl.Expectations, however, set you up for disappointment, and they blind you when you've got something good.
We respect and admire one another as parents and people, regardless of the fact that we didn't work out.
And when you bring single parents, their former partners, and their children into the mix, things get even messier.
Rule #1: Be Realistic You might be used to someone who only has you to spend his time and money on, but with a single dad, the situation will be very different. Try not to be too upset if he can't afford to take you on extravagant dates or he has to cancel because his daughter got sick.
Rule #2: Know the Difference Between Expectations and Standards Standards are the things you must have in a relationship—mutual respect, attraction, fun, etc.
When a dad is single and has children - whether as a full-time dad or sharing custody - dating can be a particular challenge.
Before he had children, defining the ideal girlfriend might have been more about her having fun, being playful, being really cute and attractive, and being a good friend.
Crickets figuratively chirp on the other end of the line. Suddenly she walks by with her cart, and looks at us with a smile.
I smile back, wondering if it's me or my son she sees. My anxiety keeps me from making such attempts, but I want to. It is what it is; at least that's what I tell myself.
Last thing he needs is another hungry mouth to feed. You have to be able to deal with them if they have a tough time adjusting.
You also need your own life and activities, as his kids will have a lot of activities too! Remember this is hard for them – to see their dad with some one other than their mom.
He will probably be attentive to yours as well which moms love of course! And keep in mind he will talk about his kids A LOT! He will eventually realize he is doing it and bring the conversation back to you and other things. Kids also require a lot of attention and a lot of work. So you just have to understand that it is difficult for him to spend as much time with you as he would like to.