Younger gays can learn a lot about self-acceptance and, consequently, acceptance of others from men who’ve been doing so since before we were born.‘If you were to just say gay guys, an image pops into my head that I’m not so fond of.’ When we talk about ‘annoying gay men’ or hating a stereotype, we’re really talking about the way a gay man is expressing his gender, not his sexuality.
Here's what they had to say: "Growing up, I loved romantic comedies that depicted the happy endings of straight couples.
So when I started dating, I viewed what I wanted from those examples.
But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.
The dynamic of two men being together IS DIFFERENT.
I'm not one to hide my orientation, but I can't stand to advertise because it's obnoxious, so because of my non-stereotypical disposition, it's not exactly common knowledge.
The problem is that the guys I'm looking for are in the same position. I would say keep doing the butch things you like to do such as rock climbing, etc.Most homophobes, gay or not, don’t care as much about a man having sex with another man as the typically feminine characteristics he displays.Yes, there are obviously still too many people who take issue with homosexuality at its core, but the more pervasive homophobia (which has seeped into the gay community) is one associated with a man acting in any way that is traditionally/ stereotypically not masculine.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.Which brings us to: ‘Masculine men tend to be attracted to masculine men, and feminine men seem to be attracted to masculine men as well.’ Gay men (and women across the spectrum) typically have a healthier balance of masculine and feminine traits than many heterosexual men. Because a lot of people are put off by a man walking or talking like a woman. Because many men have been taught to internalize a discomfort with feminine behavior. Acting like a ‘pussy’ is treated like an inherently negative thing (so is acting like a ‘dick,’ but in a different way).