Read what some of the ex-singles say in the Disabled Dating Success Stories. Whispers4u prides itself on being one of the first, if not the first site of it’s kind.Over the years many singles have connected through this unique service and have been married as a result.Coming to terms with our sexuality means facing the fact that we’re different from the norm and confronting fears about losing relationships with family and friends if they choose not to support us.
Being single and gay in the city dovetails with being in a bar or club.
Fun as the scene is, my path to recovery butted heads with meeting potential paramours in loud, sweaty bars.
That meant ending a long relationship that had come to an extremely unhealthy place. Before I began my road to recovery, I embraced my single life with vigor: I partied, I was ecstatic, I was charismatic, I dated several people at one time, I didn’t hold my liquor, I was high as a kite, I had uneventful encounters with men, led men on, I smoked cigarettes like I was born with one in my hand–and I knew, fun as all of this was, that the gig wasn’t going to last much longer.
While I was highly aware of what I was doing during this period and have no regrets whatsoever, I wasn’t putting my health first.
In a world built for the able-bodied, disabled people face countless barriers in their everyday lives.
Dating can be even more challenging, then, for the woman who has to spend every first date explaining how she “ended up” in a wheelchair or the man who receives pitying glances as he gives his date a rose. Census statistics in 2012, one in five people Americans has a disability and more than half consider their disability severe, but physical and cognitive limitations don't stop those with disabilities from enjoying dating and having meaningful, lasting relationships.
So what do you do when the object of your desire is a gay man who is “in the closet” about his sexuality? Generally speaking, the prognosis for relationship success tends to be stronger when gay men are of similar “outness” statuses.
There tends to be less tension and friction due to the mutual positions they hold with sexual identity comfort.
For example, in situations when one man is “out” and the other is “closeted”, the more “out” man often times feels like he has to slip back into the closet to accommodate his partner and this can feel like he’s going backwards in his personal development and can lead to resentment.