Even when he is not physically there for you, he's there when it counts. He spends months not seeing you and limited hours talking or texting you. As soon as he wakes up and goes to sleep, while he's training and as he spends countless hours digging a hole in Texas while sweating his balls off, you are on his mind.
While I am in awe of the military spouse, I know myself well enough to know that I would have a significantly difficult time going about my day-to-day, when my partner and best friend is at war and in danger or deployed or involved in a risky training exercise.
If I met an interested man who happened to be an active member of the military, that wouldn’t necessarily exclude him from consideration, but I would be hesitant to get involved on any sort of serious level. He served in the United States Navy for six years but had been out of the military for a significant amount of time before I sat next to him in on what would be our last first date.
The surprises, emotional roller coaster and the waiting are worth it, and it's quite a ride. I send the sneakers he wants, razors, junk food from BJ's, supplements and more. A planner is definitely needed while dating a man in the military. Your military man will make you feel safe in his arms or just in general.
Dating a man in the military is even better than dating someone at home. Men in the military have great stamina, strong body muscles and sometimes tattoos all over their bodies. You feel protected when you're around him, and you know everything will be okay, on your good or worst days.
I’ve learned that, when going out to eat, I will never again sit in a chair or booth that faces the door or entryway.
He insists on occupying the spot that allows him to survey who is coming and going into the restaurant or bar or whatever establishment we might be visiting.
Then they look at me with something akin to, I laugh.) Charlie and I would like to get married one day. We both know that the military will likely screw us over (it's the military; that's what it does) and there may be heartbreak in the future.
For the time being, we're just living one day at a time, with a secret hope that things will work out.
I knew I wouldn’t have to deal with devastatingly long deployments at sea or constant relocation so his military service wasn’t a potential hinderance, but a celebrated past accomplishment.