While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.
Raise your hand if you have had some form of a conversation based around the topic of whether or not men and women can simply be friends.
Yep, I can’t even see you, but I know your hand is raised.
Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes. What's more, there are good reasons for them to do so.
Society has long singled out romance as the prototypical male-female relationship because it spawns babies and keeps the life cycle going; cross-sex friendship, as researchers call it, has been either ignored or trivialized.
This definition could range from “friends” on Facebook to your BFF who you can hardly find a picture of yourself without them in it on Facebook.
It is somewhere in the middle of this spectrum that my “yes, men and women can just be friends” turns into a “okay, now you’re entering a danger zone.”I know that those of you who have a best male friend as a female or a best female friend as a male are already formulating your rebuttal: True: But they also rarely saw each other, which made it easier for them to safeguard their hearts, and as saints-in-the-making they were extremely receptive to the graces that God showered down on them and thus possessed a great amount of virtue.
Sometimes it might be hard to tell the difference between platonic friendship and a different kind of love.
If you’re feeling confused, take some time to examine your relationship. Do you want to try to take the relationship to the next level?
Think about specific examples of times that you’ve experienced feelings of love. There are ways you can figure this out without risking the friendship.