These people will have dates on a regular basis, and they may or may not be having sexual relations.
By Gracie X For some people, perhaps, having an open marriage is a concession.
Perhaps cheating comes to mind; you imagine that after infidelity, a couple has made a new vision of their marriage.
These are marriages that "make- do" after the scar tissue has healed.
But frankly, that isn't the way it's done in my polyamorous community, or my open marriage. For me, sex with someone else is not a deal breaker. But having some openness is one of many ingredients that keep the erotic life active in our marriage.
The whole idea both titillated my husband and scared him a bit. Sometimes, sleeping with new people is a measuring stick of how connected you are to your spouse. What followed was a new friendship between all of us.
We discussed what would make him feel safe and comfortable, and when he gave me the green light, I met a lovely woman online. This is what I love about open marriage -- the unpredictability.
They may impugn the motives of the younger person ("Gold digger!
"), or imply that it's all about sex ("You sly devil, you!
With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person.