Godly wisdom is a wide stream, and God’s word often allows us to apply his heart and wisdom in remarkably different ways, even in dating. It came in many forms, but it goes something like this: So, I started paying tuition, registered for classes, purchased the textbooks, jumped into relationship after relationship, and never looked back — until I wanted my money back.
My problem was that I subtly treated each new relationship — each marriage — like a mini-marriage. The men or women we date are not a series of lab experiments that prepare us to be a better husband or wife.
Until you think about putting yourself (or your daughter) into someone else’s “incubator” for a few months, or years, while he or she tries out their “sexual feelings” and “moral limits.” We put too much of ourselves at risk in dating to donate our hearts to someone’s romantic experiment.
Often times, it leads to unnecessary arguments or awkward tension.
Poor communication will almost always lead to mismanaged expectations, which in turn lead to disappointment.
And frankly, since the phenomenon of online dating is too new to determine it’s efficacy – its success rate as a means to marriage is still without a bonafide research base.
In other words, there is no credible research one way or the other that suggests whether online dating leads to marriages that last – that stand the test of time – or those that do not.
And because we misunderstand and misuse dating, we end up making more and greater mistakes in our search for love.
I definitely do not expect everyone to agree with me.
Communication: The importance of good communication is obvious.
We have all experienced the consequences of poor communication with our spouse.
So here is the important question – is it appropriate and safe to meet online? First, there are lots of on-line dating services on the Internet.
Be you Christian, Jewish, Muslim, African-American, Russian, Asian, Caucasian, or any other ethnic or religious group of your persuasion, there is a dating service for you! Which leads us to the second major issue regarding online dating that may lead to marriage. Are there some basic “rules” you should follow when engaging in this activity? If you were to Google “on-line safety tips,” you will find many sources of information regarding the do’s and don’ts of online dating. Reviewing the safety tips that are outlined is important as adherence to them could make the difference between a good and bad experience with online dating – between a safe experience and a dangerous one. Namely, can you find a better potential mate by online dating versus the more traditional ways of dating? Or, perhaps, you simply don’t have the wherewithal or time to date in the traditional ways?
These negative feelings will slowly pull you apart.