There is a particular aspect of mental strength that is the deciding factor of whether or not you will have a good life.
There are many levels to mental strength and all are needed to be successful and happy.
He is incapable of accessing his emotions and he purposefully keeps himself at a distance from everything that has the potential to tax him emotionally. When he did see me for a few weeks at a time and then disappears, was this just a “fix” that he needs once in a while? When he had a spare moment or was going through an insecure phase, you were ideal.
But then he’d realise he hadn’t changed or realise he’d got what he needed. The first time we dated for a few months we spent a lot of time together, was this pretend or did he just happen to have time?
The moment Mr Unavailable feels scared he’ll get to running. The last time I saw him he was almost nasty to me, did he do that so that i will leave him alone and not contact him anymore? I’m gonna be so mean to you tonight, you won’t want to see me again and if you do, you just prove to me that you’re not worthy anyway…’ Do you see where I’m headed with this? Let’s say that you hadn’t chased him, he would have been curious about you and chased you to see if it was an act and whether he could reel you in.
Sometimes with Mr Unavailable, they are telepathically trying to tell you ‘Can’t you see that I ain’t sh*t! Everything we do just confirms various beliefs that they have and no matter what, they always get to be right.
Even though I am 36, most of the people I meet would think that I am only 26.
Unfortunately, I have been through all kinds of online dates in the last two and a half years.
Emotionally unavailable men are all about the chase so it is not unusual to see a lot of them during the first few weeks or months.
But at some point he either realised that it was all a bit too much for him, decided that he had too little time and too much pressures, or something about you sent a signal to him that you expected too much from him. OK, you want to keep being there for me and being nice to me?
Here are 15 of them: Needing attention is directly linked to emotion.