But if they’re part of the unique snowflake that makes her her, that’s a really bad sign.She loves you; she hates you; you’re the only one for her; maybe it’s not working out.
Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL.
He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives.
Their tendency to lie is usually an innate personality trait.
A pathological liar likes to “big themselves up”, so to speak, by telling lies that present them as either a hero or a victim.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, a pathological liar is “a person who lies compulsively usually for no external gain or benefit and often with detrimental consequences.” A person who is a pathological liar will fabricate a complete falsification which is typically overreaching and complicated. What sets most of us apart from pathological liars is the fact that a pathological liar is provoked by a chronic tendency to tell lies.
The person who is lying is usually aware they are lying, while other pathological liars may actually convince themselves that they are telling the truth. Pathological liars are not provoked by any kind of social pressure.
So I want you to know that I am putting this out there to help and inspire everyone to have more dating success, to point fingers. ” and pretty much any sentence that begins with ‘why didn’t you,’ it’s like nails on a chalkboard.
I can tell you from a guy’s perspective that when a woman says things like: “Why didn’t you call? Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he’ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result… I would say the core reason of this is that it attacks a guy’s sense of freedom and feeling of acknowledgment. Well, when a woman starts down this chain of “Why didn’t you…” it feels to a guy as if she isn’t noticing all of the other things he is doing for a relationship. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want a relationship with all the good qualities: connection, chemistry, understanding, intimacy, attentiveness and on and on.
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.