When my husband and I were first dating, I thought he was rich.
He sailed, he had a good job, and he was always picking up the tab for pricey dinners.
Like a lot of couples in the early stages of a relationship, my husband and I didn’t talk about money or how much we earned — in fact, asking that kind of question on the first or second date would have been pretty gauche (hello, gold digger).
I'm stuck right now, I simply don't know what to do but reading the stories on your site gives me a sense of clarity that I need to voice this out.
It all started when I met a man on a dating site on July 9, 2013. An engineer by profession, lives in New York, a widower and has a 9 year old daughter.
While I don’t think money differences have to be a big issue, you both need to have the same basic money goals and values.
Habits can be changed, but personal values won’t go away.
They meet a lot of ideas in the newspaper, magazines, books and television about investments and other financial tips, but they aren't clear about how to translate this information to capitalize on it in their own personal finances. They walked in with stacks and stacks of paper, yet they had no idea what their money was supposed to be doing and didn’t have an easy organized way to look at what they had.
It's like having one blind date after another with money! Overwhelmed by the task of managing their own money, these prospects had abandoned the relationship with their money and were struggling with how to re-establish their connection with it in a powerful and productive way. If you’ve had this experience yourself or have shied away from seeing a financial planner, you need .
Not surprisingly, ethical issues have arisen from the practice of dates for money.
Some view it as a subtle form of prostitution, while others prefer to look at the arrangement from a more practical point of view.
It's like a scorned lover—they can't make sense of it and feel betrayed.