She never acts as excited to see me when I come home. " My friend has just entered into the first of two common phases of relationship insecurity: rhetorical questioning. Moreover, the very acting out of our insecurities can push our partner away, thus creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Challenging the inner critic that sabotages our relationship. Our relationships stir up old feelings from our past more than anything else.
The internal investigation continues with, "She takes forever to answer my texts. Because this struggle is so internal and most of the time even independent of circumstances, it's important to deal with our insecurities without distorting or dragging our partner into them. Our brains are even flooded with the same neurochemical in both situations.
If you’re reading this not only out of interest but to see whether any of the following signs align with those you are experiencing yourself from your own partner, there’s a strong chance you’re already in trouble. It seems, for many, you can be so blinded by love that you don’t realise how toxic your relationship is until it’s over.
You excuse their behaviour or ignore it because you don’t want to face the fact that your partner is actually an asshole.
Central to this story is the relationship between Issa and her boyfriend Lawrence.
To summarize, Issa and Lawrence’s relationship has been on the rocks since Lawrence fell on hard times and Issa had to financially support the household.
" Then comes phase two: turning on himself, "It's because I'm losing my looks. People with low self-esteem not only want their partner to see them in a better light than they see themselves, but in moments of self-doubt, they have trouble even recognizing their partner's affirmations. Nothing awakens distant hurts like a close relationship.
Unsurprisingly, studies have found that people with low self-esteem have more relationship insecurities, which can prevent them from experiencing the benefits of a loving relationship.
So now that we are all caught up, let’s move on to the larger issues pointed out by this series.
The popularity of Insecure and Awkward Black Girl before that are that they relate to young women (in particular, young black women) in a realistic way.
There’s nothing wrong with showing your interest in a woman when you first meet her or being madly in love with her in a relationship, but there is a problem when your love and affection becomes warped by neediness.
Needy love is unattractive to women because women are attracted to the emotional strength and security of men and turned off by the weakness.
A secure attachment pattern helps a person to be more confident and self-possessed.