They're still looking for a woman who has a 24-inch waist and a flat stomach, who looks great in an evening gown, in jeans, and buck-naked on the back of a Harley; a woman who has that pinkish, glowing morning beauty and the energy and enthusiasm of endless youth, a woman who is always bubbly, perky, willing, and happy to see you, and who will initiate mad, passionate sex—with or without abandon—at any time, even in broad daylight on the sofa or in the back seat of your car between golf, tennis, and football games. Her 'fantasy' man should be successful, ambitious, brilliant, educated, powerful, while also sensitive, athletic, mechanical, courageous, creative, sensual (but only with her), understanding, domestic yet independent, faithful, honest, mannerly, patient, warm, generous, funny, tall, spirited, communicative, and respectful, with a washboard stomach, sweet-smelling breath, and lots of thick wavy hair.
There were important questions to ask regarding each suitor: were there any awkward pauses? Did he maintain eye contact (or did he glance at his i Phone, or your cleavage)? Since my friend didn’t plan on marrying, their surnames were a moot point, but I said first names would be helpful.
People flock to these generational identities like they flock to their horoscopes, combing through all the traits to seek out the good characteristics and throw away the bad attributes that are reflected in their generational identities.
It’s been a while and you’re probably not in your best shape.
It’s about time you started working out and caring for the physical appearance of your body a bit more.
Like Pavlov’s dogs, men seem programmed to respond to certain stimuli even when they know it has been laced with rat poison. Hang an oil painting over your bed if that’s what you want, I told them, but don’t be too disappointed when it can’t smile back, make great coffee, scratch your back, kiss your boo-boos, listen to your fish stories and other dreams of conquest repeatedly, wrap all the Christmas presents, choose your neckties and navigate through life with you. Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us, understand us, and kiss our three heads and make it all better.
While the majority of men say that humor, playfulness, and self-confidence are more important to them than appearance in long-term relationships, they admit that what primarily attracts their initial interest is, in fact, a woman’s physical beauty. It’s not uncommon for older, mature men, caught in the throes of momentary ecstasy, to cast caution aside and pursue their daughter’s best friend rather than the woman next door who could actually be an interesting and loyal partner and a fabulous lover. GET REALISTICLet’s turn it around and look at the picture through a woman’s eyes. --Carrie Bradshaw "Sex and the City"Barbara Kennedy, MPH, MSW, is a well-known relationship coach, prominent speaker, and public health educator with a private relationship coaching practice in Scottsdale, Arizona.In the afterglow of Valentines Day, Erin has shared her advice with us; she calls it, “Last Man Standing: A Baby Boomer’s Dating Advice to a Generation X-er.” A friend of mine has found herself recently relocated, and recently single.Although I haven’t been in the dating pool for years, I was flattered when my friend solicited my advice. Fast forward to the 21st century, and although human’s treatment of other species has greatly improved from even a century ago – Boomers are the first generation to have household pets as the norm – in some ways the practice of distancing ourselves from them continues: In turn, this has allowed us to feel comfortable eating them, selling them, and in too many cases, abusing them. Think capturing them in the wild for the circus, or whipping a slow, underfed horse to death, from which comes the adage “beating a dead horse” to indicate a futile activity.Yet: So, why are humans having such difficulty applying our new found understanding of other species to our treatment of them, just as, for example, we’ve changed the way we treat humans with impairments now that we better understand their capacities?