Some publications have determined that the average couple dates for a mere 25 months (just over 2 years) before the question is popped, while others find that couples date for just under 3 years before getting engaged.
There’s a lot of societal pressure on what’s considered normal in the dating and marriage world, so we decided to conduct a survey to find out what’s really going on.
So I did what any reasonable, mature person would do: Instead of just opening up to my partner about it, I immediately ran to 10-15 of my closest friends to talk it out.
Would you ever give your significant other an ultimatum, and how long would you wait?
One December morning, about four months into dating my partner, I woke up and knew I loved him.
She said they’d been “official” for two months but have been dating for four to five, and asked other women to share their experiences.
From the first date to a year, stories varied wildly.
And not only on your man to say it back (and not that you’re literally pressuring him, he could just be feeling backed into a corner), but also on you to figure out which direction your relationship is going.
But it’s hard to measure whether your relationship is going the success or failure route based on three words.We had been through hell and high water together–a vindictive ex of mine on campus, his constant acquisitions of female friends that unintentionally started drama–and like most men do in the beginning, he pursued me to no end to be his girlfriend. He said “I love you” faster than those talking dolls from back in the day, and when he said it, we were just talking again after a break up, and had been doing so for maybe a month?But once the relationship got going fast, things seemed to be moving a little too slow. It came out so fast that I didn’t feel it in return and wound up lying and saying it back, only to retract it like a jerk.But another big one is the first saying of “I love you.” Whilst we love our mums, dogs and halloumi, being What if they don’t feel the same way? So how do you know when is the right time to say those three little words?One woman recently posed the dilemma in a Mumsnet forum: “I think my new boyfriend wants to say it but doesn’t want me to not say it back, so he seems to be saying it in a jokey way or a roundabout way recently,” she wrote.How soon into a relationship should you and your man be throwing around the words, “I love you?