Her interactions with the women in those groups as well as her own healing led her to write of her experience Family Life Today. Every man I’ve talked with knows when his sexual addiction started.
If there is no physical contact or actual sex, is it still an affair?
“It’s not just that you’re communicating with someone online but that there is a sexual or emotional nature,” says Katherine Hertlein, Ph D, an associate professor at the University of Nevada in Las Vegas who studies online affairs.
“With the Internet, we’re moving away from just physical ideas about infidelity and acknowledging emotional infidelity.” While there is no universally accepted definition, an Internet affair frequently involves intimate chat sessions and sexually stimulating conversation or cybersex, which may include filming mutual masturbation with a Web camera.
Several studies suggest that even when there is no in-person contact, online affairs can be just as devastating as the real-world variety, triggering feelings of insecurity, anger and jealousy.
There were redundancy problems at work; my marriage was showing strains; and there was something large and unnameable missing from my life.
I ignored it until I could do so no longer, until eventually, for what felt like the sake of my sanity, I resolved to do something about it.
I was 13 in 1995 when we finally went online at my house.
It would be another six or seven years before I fully embraced the Internet’s ability to bring me a steady flow of anonymous sex partners.
When I was about ten, I found a stash of pornography.
I can still remember the rush of adrenaline and other chemicals surging through my brain and body.
While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex.