But when you do things together as a couple, you can't avoid thinking about your partner while it's going on. But like any couple married for a long time, we were in a routine: Go out with some friends. Just planning these dates can give you something to discuss." So, armed with the information I'd learned from Dr. He snapped back at me for being impatient, and that was the end of conversation. The place we picked was ultra-hip and the food was delicious.
I know, I know…just lost major romantic points here. Many years ago, however, we did a competition for who could create the best dates for $50 or less.
The great thing is Keith is very similar in his sensibilities. We swapped off weekends and each week, one of us would be responsible for planning our next great adventure. One of his dates involved taking me to a Patti La Belle with Frankie Beverly and Maze concert. Let’s not talk about the group of guys seated below us who missed the memo that marijuana wasn’t legal in California. Now, if you have neighbors who can see into your backyard or if you’re in an apartment, it may be best to just open the window in your bedroom.
The whole point of The Romantic Dinner is to let her know that spending this evening with her is special for you. Go online and get tickets to see something that you’re both into—a band, a team, a play, an art exhibit, whatever—and put it on the calendar as Date Night. We could go out for dinner, see that new Ryan Gosling movie, check out the houses in that new neighborhood they’re building… Sounds like a perfect date to me.” Even if she’s not in the mood to stay in bed (a distinct possibility), she’ll appreciate the fact that you are, because it’s a compliment to her—it shows that you’re attracted to her and want to engage in some intimacy.
But if you do it, do it right—get dressed up, get her flowers, and go to an establishment using less than 60-watt bulbs for illumination. All you have to do is be proactive and make a plan. Everything you see together can stimulate conversation. And exercise produces an endorphin release, which subsequently triggers a release of hormones that increase sexual desire in Practically speaking, it’s not a difficult thing to propose—“So what do you want to do tonight?
But for less than $50, you can imagine where we were seated, right? Our date quickly went up in smoke…literally and figuratively…and we got out of there pretty quickly. You’re never committed to buy anything and they just gave you at least one free date with your honey. Love this idea HWC contributor Paula Rollo came up with when she and her hubby were in a similar predicament last year. But for those lucky enough to have a private backyard, pull the comforter off your bed, grab a bottle of wine and two glasses, and take your date outside. Last night, we were at a Pan-Asian restaurant and they were promoting the upcoming National Noodle Day (October 6th for all you noodle lovers).
Over the years, we’ve gotten much better with our frugal dates. Have you noticed that nearly every new fitness studio has a “first class free” special? Workout together and then come home and get washed off together (I’ll let you decide what that means). You have just a few more times to catch a full moon before the year ends so take advantage now. A Moment in Time Seal your time together by constructing and burying a time capsule. So why not create your own national holiday, mark it on your calendar and celebrate it each and every year? There is something incredibly sacred about vowing to love one another til’ death do you part.
By Allie Churchill for Your How many times have you gone out together to catch dinner and a movie? but it sure does get boring after a while, doesn't it?
If you've ever been in a long-term relationship -- whether it lasted seven months or seven years -- you know that date night starts to feel stale over time.
I will be the first to admit that I am pretty bad at planning any sort of date.
Mainly because I work such long hours that an amazing date for me involves staying home, not getting dressed and simply snuggling on the couch not doing much of anything.
Tell your wife, “On Saturday September 22, we’re going on a date.” Don’t tell her the plan, just that you’ve taken care of everything. or we could just stay in bed (cue the sly smile and/or raising of a single eyebrow).” After the sly smile/eyebrow raise, reiterate that you’re serious. And perhaps she’ll be the one to suggest it next time If you’re close to a major city, you might be surprised by the number of urban winerys that are out there.